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Thrilled to be a part of @girlstalkaboutsex, an ac

Thrilled to be a part of @girlstalkaboutsex, an account I just love, spreading a message I'm so passionate about: stop putting pressure on yourself to orgasm every time you have sex! The best way to enjoy sex is to stop viewing orgasm as the finish line and just enjoy the ride. Orgasm isn't the goal, pleasure is the goal 🥰

I don't look like this right now. This was yesterd

I don't look like this right now. This was yesterday when I felt really optimistic about my first day back at work and the new year so I put makeup on and actually ran some oil through my hair. Today, I'm a bit mopier and in my comfy clothes, makeup-less. This is the first lockdown announcement that's sent me into anxiety and panic. Being someone who works from home permanently (preceding the pandemic) I've never felt much of a change as restrictions roll in and out. I know that's enormous luck (I'm not complaining) but this time felt different. I had a sniffle, drank some rum, and made some panic purchases: a subscription to Roxane Gay's paid substack knowing id need an intelligent and comforting voice during this time. A subscription to ad-less 4OD. A book about how to write a book. And a Brother fs250fe sewing machine... and then I fell asleep. No regrets. Not entirely sure why I'm sharing this here, just want people to know its okay to be Feeling Things right now. And my DMs are open to those feeling like they're losing it a bit xxxxx

I feel torn as I look back on 2020. In terms of ca

I feel torn as I look back on 2020. In terms of career and personal achievement, its been my happiest and most successful year. I got engaged to the greatest person thats ever lived, started a new job, passed my driving test, bought my first car, and I made the most of lockdown by writing more than ever and getting bylines id wanted for years. But its also the year ive experienced the most anxiety, and every single achievement I just listed has been 1000 x more difficult than it should have been because of the pandemic. And I was terrified I wouldn't be able to write for a living anymore because of how uncertain everything felt. I'm endlessly grateful and relieved that these things could still happen for me, despite feeling frustrated that it should have been simpler. I also can't avoid thinking of how much covid has taken from us all. It takes a toll, watching the death numbers go up and staring out the window to dystopia-like empty streets and closed stores. I'm lucky to be alive and to have not lost any loved ones, but this year I learned how upsetting it is to be hundreds of miles away from any family members while an unprecedented plague threatens their health and theres nothing I can do to help. Its been terrifying watching my partner be repeatedly messed around or furloghed by the government as a hospitality worker. Its been scary being a renter, and watching the government forget about us so often. Its been confusing being so self critical and questioning every move I make three times over, wondering if I'm 'pandemic-proof' enough every second. This year has forced me to look at things differently. I value family and time spent with them much more. I love my partner even more than I already did. I also hate the tories even more than I already did, which i didn't imagine possible. I believe in my own strength more than ever, yet I'm horribly aware of how vulnerable I've proven to be, especially when world disaster strikes. I'm not setting any resolutions other than to keep following guidance and do my bit to keep people alive. 2020 sucked but I'm grateful for the happy moments it did give me (of which there were many) and for showing me what I can do 💕

Ugly photo please excuse me but I PASSED MY FUCKIN

Ugly photo please excuse me but I PASSED MY FUCKING DRIVING TEST. I literally never thought this would happen and it did so I'm now off to cry, eat pringles and stalk autotrader. Now that this is done I can officially stop working on anything for the year and have proper time off over Xmas for the first time!

Oh my god I'm back again. 3rd article to be publis

Oh my god I'm back again. 3rd article to be published today: I wrote for @thebreakdownmag about why makeup is so perfect for self expression, with a little help from Chanel Ledgers brill Ted Talk on makeup and self expression, and a few of my wonderful makeup loving friends (including the gorj @benpechey). Thank you again to @hattiejanegladwell for asking me to write these wonderful pieces. Link in stories! I'll update my link tree later on... its been a day 😂

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